Everywhere I turn there’s subliminal messages telling me how to live my life, when to get married, when to have a kid, how to look, how to act; the list goes on. From Facebook to Instagram, and this app or that one, I’m bombarded with reminders that I’m just not living up to my full millennial potential.
So, what is wrong with me?
According to social media:
- I’m not fit enough.
- My butt isn’t round or big enough.
- I can’t contour with makeup for the life of me.
- I am not engaged to my boyfriend of over 4 years; basically, I’m failing at my love life.
- Kids? HAHA – Girl, you better freeze those eggs.
- I don’t have enough followers.
- I don’t have an amazingly impressive career.
- I haven’t travelled enough.
If I continue to scroll through my IG and Facebook feed that list would grow and grow – if I let it. But who says I need to compare myself to my friends from my hometown, let alone people I don’t even know in the social media world? Nobody.
In reality, I make the own rules for my life. I don’t let myself compare my life to anyone else’s, because if I did, I’d be really damn depressed.
Social media expectations can cause us to be down on ourselves. We may question our own happiness when looking at it side by side of someone else’s content on social media.
My question to you all is: If you didn’t have access to view other’s lives via these social outlets, would you think more highly of yourself? For me, the answer is yes.
I might not have a shredded physique and look like an IG fitness model or I might not have the roundest, biggest booty; but I do what I can to be healthy, and my health is more important than the appearance of my abs.
I might not have crazy makeup skills, in fact my makeup is always very basic, but I love myself for more than the makeup on my face.
I might not be married with kids or even engaged; but I’m happy with the relationship (and partnership) I’ve built with my long-time boyfriend. I might not have a big rock on my finger (yet), but I’m secure enough in our commitment to each other that I can wait for the right time.
I might not have thousands of followers on my IG or have an extensive repertoire of cool/impressive shit I’ve done; but I have goals that I want to crush that I won’t be able to do so if I dwell on what I haven’t accomplished thus far. Not to mention, when I sit down and really look at all I’ve accomplished, it’s far greater than I give myself credit for.
So forget what that other person is doing, pick yourself up from your bootstraps, and get going. Take action to better you. Don’t do it for IG, the likes, or because it looks cool. Do it because you want to.
One day I’ll meet you in a really awesome place on the other side of the world; until then, let’s make stuff happen.